September 2014

carry-the-messageThe purpose of our Intergroup is to more effectively reach the sex addict in the Orange County area who still suffers.  We meet the second Thursday of each month from 7:00-8:15 p.m. in the Albright Room at the First Methodist Church of Costa Mesa, 420 W. 19th St., located at the end of the 55 Freeway across from Triangle Square.  All SAA members are welcome.  If you can’t make it, meeting minutes are published on our website.  We are still a young organization and need your ideas!

See You in Oceanside!

Many of us are looking forward to the SAA weekend retreat to be held in Oceanside on October 3-5, 2014.  Members who have attended previous Oceanside retreats say they came home feeling totally rejuvenated.  Social activities, lectures, meetings, communal meals, and lots of fellowship in a serene Outer Circle setting – these retreats have it all.  For more information, call Cliff at 858-442-0192 or email him at

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My Share

Each month, we publish a personal but anonymous story of recovery.  Stories should be written in the first person (“I”); speak from your experience, strength, and hope; and be limited to approximately one typewritten page.  Please submit your story to  We may edit submissions for reasons of space, clarity, and appropriate language.  Here is this month’s story:

Experience, Strength, and Hope

The title phrase is something we hear all the time in SAA.  When we hear things often, we sometimes let them flow through our consciousness without thinking about what they really mean.  The problem with that is, we hear these words frequently because they are important!  So let us take a few minutes to examine them and contemplate their meanings.

We gain experience as we progress through the SAA program, and we draw on our previous acting out experiences to help others.  We experience what life is like in the absence of acting out, and through experience we learn which tools of the program are most helpful to us.  Successfully recovering SAA members who experienced devastating consequences resulting from their addictions are great examples for newcomers, who can be demoralized to the point of hopelessness.  Seeing someone who suffered greatly in their addiction but is now living happily can inspire newcomers to follow their example.  That is not to wish anyone to suffer greatly just so they can help others, but it is interesting to know that the more serious consequences they experienced in their addiction, the more helpful they may be to others in the program, and it’s a way to feel better about themselves.

Working the SAA program gives us the strength to maintain a sober lifestyle – strength to resist acting out, and strength to live and accept life as it comes, warts and all.  Our strength increases as we maintain our abstinence, and it becomes much easier to resist acting out.  We can’t forget that we are addicts, however.  Overconfidence can easily result in a slip.  We know that we must continue to use the tools of recovery we received.  We can pass this knowledge on to others.

Recovery gives us back our hope, the hope we thought was gone forever.  “The Promises” lists a series of life areas that gradually improve as we progress through the program, from finances to relationships to increased awareness to being interested in helping others and most important of all, to serenity – feeling comfortable in our own skin, feeling good about ourselves.  We are no longer the hopeless shells of human beings that first entered the SAA meeting rooms.  Others see this and learn that they can regain their hope, too.

A common thread runs through these:  helping others.  When I first joined SAA, I was too distraught even to think of helping others.  I was the one who needed all the help I could get.  But over time, as I gained my own experience, strength, and hope, I realized I had been given a gift to pass on to others in their recovery.  This was a real turnaround.

Early on, I was told that I would experience a spiritual transformation as I worked the program.  I wondered how I would “do” a spiritual transformation or awakening, since Step 12 said I would have one, but I didn’t know how.   It was when I realized that I wanted to help others that I knew it had happened.  My spirit had changed, and the changes continue to mature as my recovery continues.  This happened as a result of the experience, strength, and hope that recovery has given me.  I am so grateful.

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Announcements & Newsnotes

Do You Know What “Keyword Optimization” Means?

If so, you may be able to help us.  We are looking for expertise in the area of keyword optimization and design, so our website will appear more prominently in online searches.  If you think you can help, please email Neal B. at or Ron R. at  Thank you!

Intergroup Vacancies

Our Intergroup has four vacant positions:  These are great opportunities to be of service, and they generally require little or no special expertise.

The Vice Chair works with the Chair to coordinate the Intergroup’s overall activities.  It’s estimated that the Vice Chair duties take about four hours per month, plus the monthly Intergroup meeting.

The Inreach Coordinator handles Intergroup activities involving the existing SAA framework, as opposed to Outreach, which works to bring in newcomers.  The Inreach Coordinator’s duties require two (sometimes more) hours per month, plus the monthly Intergroup meeting.

The Digital Communications Assistant helps the Digital Communications Director maintain the website and provide other digicom services.  Depending on the workload, the amount of time needed can vary, but it is not excessive.  Attendance at the monthly Intergroup meeting is encouraged.

The Vice Treasurer works with the Treasurer to manage our Intergroup funds.  The duties generally occupy minimal time, but this can vary.  There may be an abstinence requirement for this position.  Attendance at the monthly Intergroup meeting is encouraged.

If you are interested in any of these positions and want to learn more, please contact Ron R. at  Or, you may attend the next monthly Intergroup meeting on September 11.

For Residents of Newport Beach (and Those Who Like to Visit)

The SAA meetings in Newport Beach are looking to grow.  If you are in the market for a new meeting, you may want to consider attending one of these gatherings of fellow SAA members.

A Few Intergroup Representatives Still Needed

If your meeting still lacks an Intergroup rep, please tell your secretary that you need one.  For more information, contact us at  We highly recommend you find someone to fill this service position.  We also suggest if possible, that your group allocate a percentage of its donations to the Intergroup for its activities, which benefit all SAA groups in the region.

A Note to Event Promoters and Organizers: For those requesting announcements to run in our newsletter, please use the following format – and order – as much as possible:
Who: Are you a committee (of the Intergroup, for example), or an individual SAA meeting group, or another type of organization or individual?
What: Is this a workshop, breakfast, retreat, or another type of event?
Title: What is the name of your event?
When: Give the date and starting and ending times of your event.
Cost: What is the suggested contribution, or is it a set fee, or is no one turned away for lack of funds?
Description: In a sentence, or several sentences, say what is unique or especially appealing about your event.
Where: Event address, along with any cross-street info or parking tips you think are important.
More Info: Who to call for more information?  List a telephone number, email address, and/or website.
Please give us as much lead time as possible, and note that submissions are subject to editing for clarity and space.

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SAA Meeting News

New Meetings:

Thursday, 7:00-8:00 p.m.
Closed, men only
707 E. Chapman, Orange 92866
Building is close to Orange Traffic Circle, white with green trim, no suite number; parking lot adjacent to building
Contact Chris B. (949) 278-3642

Friday, noon-1:00 p.m.
Closed, men only
St. Matthew’s Church
1111 W. Town & Country Rd., Unit 14, Orange 92868
In the Town & Country Business Center North (look for “Gondola Subs”), around the back
Contact Casey (323) 375-7322

Tuesday, 7:00-8:30 p.m.
Closed, mixed
Book study/Check-in
First Southern Baptist Church, Dining Room
6801 Western Ave., Buena Park, CA 90621 (just north of Orangethorpe Ave.)
Contact Maurice B. (714) 683-8663/ or Eli R. (714) 650-0132

Sunday, 5:00-6:30 p.m.
Closed, mixed
United Methodist Church, Room 2
13000 San Antonio Dr., Norwalk, CA 90650
Contact Eli R. (714) 650-0132 or Gary H. (562) 882-0729, email


The Monday evening women’s book study meeting has relocated.  Please call 714-485-3655 or email for more details.

The Monday through Friday noon meetings at Mariners Church in Irvine have moved.  New location:
First Methodist Church of Costa Mesa, 420 W. 19th St., located at the end of the 55 Freeway across from Triangle Square; meet in the Albright Room past the restrooms.

All morning meetings at the First Methodist Church in Costa Mesa have been canceled.

The Friday morning meeting at the Alano Club has been canceled.

The Monday and Friday Long Beach meetings are no longer at Kaiser Permanente, 3900 E. Pacific Coast Hwy., Long Beach.  The new meeting times and locations are:
—Monday, 7:30-8:30 pm, Mixed/Closed/Step/Tradition/Topic
Unitarian Church, 5450 Atherton St., Long Beach (just West of Bellflower Blvd.), in the Chalice Room
Contact Carole B., 562-841-4348, or e-mail CAROLEMARY@NETZERO.COM
Friday, 6:30-7:30 pm, Mixed/Closed/Step/Tradition/Topic
Unitarian Church, 5450 Atherton St., Long Beach (just West of Bellflower Blvd.) in the Chalice Room
Contact Carole B., 562-841-4348, or e-mail CAROLEMARY@NETZERO.COM

Two meetings have suspended operations until a new location is found:
Monday and Wednesday, 12:00-1:00 p.m., Men Only/Open/Book Study
Formerly held at 23151 Moulton Parkway, Laguna Woods
Call Scott, 949-547-3412 for updates

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Orange County Intergroup Officers and Committee Chairs

Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. — Tradition 2

Chair: Ron R.,
Vice Chair: Vacant,
Digital Communications: Neal B., (Assistant: Vacant,
Inreach: Vacant,
Outreach: Maurice B.,
Literature: Ron C.,
Treasurer: Brian A. (Vice Treasurer: Vacant),
Secretary: Earl Q.,
Newsletter Editor:  Mike K.,
Parliamentarian: Mike K.

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